How to Help a Friend
If you have a friend/fellow student what you are concerned about, below you will find some suggestions on how to approach to approach your friend.
- Speak with your friend in a private location when neither of you will be rushed.
- Be straight forward and non-judgmental. In a supportive and kind manner be specific about what you've observed and what you are concerned about. Ask if he/she would like to talk about it.
- Listen carefully; quiet your mind so you can fully focus on what he/she is sharing with you. Summarize what you have heard to be sure you are hearing what was said.
- Refer your friend to the Counseling Center for additional assistance. If your friend is having a significant problem, chances are it is more than you are prepared to handle. Ruth Conboy, Director of Counseling in the Bruder Center can be reached at ext. 3478 or via e-mail at rconboy@immaculata.edu. You may also feel free to stop by the Bruder Center to set up an appointment.
- If he/she is reluctant to seek help, offer to accompany your friend to the Bruder Center.
- Recognize your limitations, you do not have the power to make your friend change or control how your friend responds.
- You do have the ability to be honest, genuine and supportive. You have the option of getting support for yourself and acknowledging your own needs and setting healthy boundaries.